2nd Edition Book Launch
2nd Edition Book Launch
Ancient Wisdom Modern Love
The Book
I didn't set out to write a dating book.I set out to share what I'd learned — from my grandmother, my mother, and 35 years of helping accomplished people find love — in a way that actually made sense for the world we live in today.The result is Ancient Wisdom Modern Love: Chinese Wisdom for Dating Success.At the heart of the book are chengyu — the classical Chinese sayings I grew up with. Short, memorable, and surprisingly powerful when applied to modern dating. Phrases like "ride the mule to catch the horse" — the encouragement to take imperfect first steps instead of waiting for perfect conditions.I wrote this book for the high-achieving professional who has built an extraordinary life but hasn't yet found the right partner. For the person who is smart, successful, and still puzzled by why dating isn't working. And for anyone who wants to deepen the relationship they already have.This is the book I wish someone had handed me when I was starting out.Now in its second edition — updated with more lessons and a bonus section of secret family recipes passed down through my family.Amazon Author Page[Buy on Amazon] AmazonBuy on Google Books: Interested in working with me directly? Learn more about my matchmaking practice atAWM Love
Ancient Wisdom, Modern Love:
Chinese Wisdom for Dating Success
For centuries, Chinese people have been distilling everything from philosophical ideas to folk wisdom to advice on relationships into short, memorable, and often humorous sayings called “chengyu” (成語).
These ancient phrases and their relatable wisdom that I myself heard growing up are a core part of my matchmaking practice as I advise my clients on successfully navigating dating and building relationships.
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A second-generation Chinese-American, third-generation matchmaker, and former Goldman Sachs and JP Morgan Securities investment banker and tech executive. Cassindy brings a wealth of varied experience to her work with clients, blending tradition and modernity. The matchmaking bug bit early when she set-up over 100 students for the Asian-Association Blind Date Semi-Formal at Wellesley College. Cassindy trained with NYT Bestselling author and Matchmaker Rachel Greenwald along with 17 other matchmakers. She is a proud member of the Matchmakers Alliance. Cassindy is committed to her community and is on the Board of the Wellesley College Asian Alumnae Alliance, Development Committee for Asian Health Services, a former scout leader, and President of the local Asian club for her city.
She resides in the Bay Area celebrating 25 years of marriage with her husband and is always learning from her own 3 children as they navigate their own lives.
Cassindy Chao is a third-generation Chinese 紅娘, former Goldman Sachs and JP Morgan investment banker, and founder of Ancient Wisdom Modern Love — an elite matchmaking company serving accomplished professionals in San Francisco, Los Angeles, and New York City. She is a graduate of Wellesley College and a German Marshall Memorial Fellow. This is her debut book.
Meet Matchmaker Cassindy and learn about her approach to creating great relationships in love and life.
Swiping. Matching. Meetups. Setups. Hookups.
If your dating life isn’t taking you in the direction you want, it is time to change course. But what to do? Take the important advice that renowned matchmaker Cassindy Chao has given to her elite clients for more than twenty years and get closer to the relationship you want.
Whether you're single and searching for love or in a partnership seeking to deepen your connection, Ancient Wisdom || Modern Love provides a roadmap to relationship success. Cassindy’s expertise shines through as she seamlessly combines age-old Chinese wisdom with contemporary dating insights and a much-needed dose of humor, empowering readers to unlock the secrets of lasting love.
About the Author: Meet Matchmaker Cassindy
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Testimonials
“Getting married during pandemic was an adjustment and we made it work. Now you can add another success story to your list!”
“Cassie has been a matchmaker since her college days at Wellesley. There she built an impressive database of eligible singles and again and again proved an innate knack for making great matches among students at Wellesley, Harvard, MIT, Yale, etc. She helped me identify my now husband. He is my one true love. He understands, accepts, and celebrates me. Without her sage advice, I would not be married today.”
“Cassindy introduced. Our backgrounds were very similar, and we had lot in common, yet we would not have met without her nudge. We fell in love the day we first met and we’ve been married ever since. Cassindy is a friend for life!”
Second Edition: Shared experiences, stories, and bonus family recipes.
Learn how lessons from “chengyu” can change your love life for the better with warmth and humor.
What This Book Covers
The ancient Chinese concept of 緣分 (yuánfèn) — destined connection — and how to cultivate it in modern life
Why high-achieving professionals struggle with dating and how to break the cycle
How to apply strategic thinking to your search for a lasting partner
The role of family, culture, and heritage in modern relationships
Practical wisdom from three generations of 紅娘 matchmaking
Secret family recipes passed down through Cassindy's family (2nd Edition exclusive)
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